Ahead of Father’s Day, a group of fathers aged between 86 and 98 have shared the life lessons they believe every new dad should know.
Having raised children through decades of social change; from post-war Britain and rationing to the arrival of the internet and smartphones, residents at Berkley Care Homes have seen fatherhood evolve dramatically.
Yet despite more than 700 years of combined life experience between them, their advice remains refreshingly simple: be present, show love and make the most of every moment.
For David Carr, 90, from Leamington Spa, being a father starts with showing up.
“Be there, be present – bringing up a child is not just the mother’s job.”
That sentiment was echoed by Michael Smith, 98, from Warwick, who believes parenting should always be a shared responsibility.
“Always share the care and don’t leave it all to your wife.”
Several fathers reflected on how quickly childhood passes. Victor Vowles, 94, from Leamington Spa, urged parents to cherish every stage.
“Treasure every moment and don’t wish their childhood away. Time passes so quickly.”
He added:
“Be patient, be kind, teach by example – and love them whatever they do or the choices they make.”
For Mike, 90, from Worcester, the biggest lesson was realising just how fleeting those early years are.
“Be curious and be tolerant of misbehaviour. I wish I’d known how quickly time flies when I first became a father. Being a dad is having the joy of sticking together.”
He also emphasised the importance of patience, affection and keeping a positive outlook.
Meanwhile, Carl Wimperis, 94, from Leamington Spa, said one of the toughest parts of fatherhood is learning when to let go.
“Your children grow up so fast – and letting them make and learn from their own mistakes is very hard for a father, but it’s something you need to do.”
For Patrick, 97, from Chesham, fatherhood is built on authenticity and guidance.
“You have to be yourself and be good. You have to look after them and they will come to you for guidance.”
And John ‘JJ’, 86, from Chesham, offered perhaps the most memorable advice of all:
“Make anything to keep them happy, even if it’s green custard.”
Reflecting on his own experience as a father, David summed up what many of the group expressed.
“My children have enriched my life beyond my wildest dreams. I cannot imagine what life would have been without them.”
As Father’s Day approaches, their collective message is clear: childhood passes quickly, perfection isn’t required, and the moments children remember most are often the simplest ones spent together.