Love, although it should, does not always work out. People change and people drift apart. Winning back your ex, whether it be your ex-partner or ex-spouse, does not have to be as difficult as you may have found it to be in the past. This page will tell you four strategies to win back your ex. It is important, however, to remember that sometimes, you cannot win. Sometimes your ex will not want to get back with you no matter how vehemently you pursue them. Sometimes trying to get your ex back can border on being a creep.
You must ensure that you take no when no comes as the answer. It can be difficult to accept a loss, but in these instances, you must. Trying to pursue your ex too eagerly can wind up with them phoning the police – or at the very least impolitely telling you to stay out of their way.
Who Was Responsible?
Determining who was responsible for the break up is a very important part of getting back together with your ex. By deciding to click here and read this page – we do not offer a miracle cure, and there are some things that cannot be resolved, like if you broke up with them. Breaking up with them can cause some serious problems in your relationship if you were to get back together, namely that you may have missed them dearly and value them more, but they may have realized they can live without you.
The person who is often responsible for the break up is scarcely the one to pursue the other party and demand they get back together. If it was you who was responsible, while you may be successful in mending your relationship, it can be terribly unlikely, and your relationship can be fraught with problems from the outset.
Determine Problems Within
Establishing which problems your relationship had before attempting to get your ex back is very important. You must always ensure that you identify any triggers or problems that may have been a detriment to your relationship. Most relationships do have their problems, and if yours ended prematurely and you hope to give it another go, there is a very big chance that there indeed were problems.
Identifying those problems will mean that you are able to make sure they do not happen again if your relationship is given a second go around. You can identify the problems your relationship had by thinking long and hard about the source of your arguments (of which I am sure there were many) and establish what it was that caused these. If you do manage to get another go at your relationship, you will want to ensure that these things never happen again and that you are able to get along amicably with your partner with very little conflict and no arguments whatsoever.
Give it Time
If you have just broken up, it is best to give it time for your partner to get over the dismay and anger she or he may be holding onto. Immediately after a break up if you try to mend it, your ex-partner may be very nasty to you, may play with you, or may just refuse to speak to you. Confronting your partner and demanding they get back with you will never end well. Give it time for your partner to get over the initial shock and anger – and allow them time to realize that you weren’t so bad after all and that they could potentially be happier with you. You will know when it is time to approach and ask your partner to take you back because they will be more open to speaking and may even initiate a conversation with you.
Closing the deal and having another go in your relationship is perhaps the hardest part. You will need to provide assurances that none of the problems your relationship was fraught with will reoccur, and you will need to guarantee you will not cause arguments, nor give in if they are the one causing arguments.
It is often best to ask your ex-partner to meet you somewhere you are both familiar with and have good memories, as this will allow them to see past the problems in your relationship to the good times. Be gentle with them, politely, and amiable, as any conflict may immediately put them off and push them away.
With the help of this page, you should now know the steps you must consider when attempting to get back with your ex-partner. Rekindling an old romance can be beautiful if done properly. Good luck.