Do you ever wish you were a mind reader and could control what people thought of you without talking out loud? Or do you wish you could speak to people in a more memorable, confident way? Thanks to the science of psychology, there are little things you can do to help control your relationships and even how people perceive you. And you don’t need any magical powers to make it happen, just good old-fashioned mind tricks. Material is provided by mycasinoindex.com.
Let’s count it down from number 6, to find out if someone is secretly looking at you. Picture this: you’re sitting in class and looking over your shoulder at the person sitting behind you, only to find that they’re looking out the window. But you could have sworn you felt them staring at you. If you want to learn if someone has been looking at you, try yawning. No, it’s not some secret code, but if someone is looking at you and you happen to yawn, they won’t be able to help, but yawn themselves. This phenomenon is called ‘contagious yawning’. According to psychology today, scientists still haven’t managed to pinpoint exactly why people yawn when they see other people yawn. But they do know that it happens to both humans and chimpanzees. Some guess it has to do with a human’s ability to empathize with other people. But no matter what the real reason is, when people see others you’re there, they do it too.
Number 5: defuse a conflict with food. Have you ever felt mad while taking a bite out of a delicious burrito? Probably not, unless you ordered a burger. The point is food is a great way to calm people down and defuse uncomfortable situations. Let’s say, you’ve gotten into an argument with your significant other, and you need to talk to each other and hash things out. Instead of going to your house or taking a walk in the park, pick a restaurant to go and eat in. Once you order food and have it in front of you, your focus will be split between the issue at hand and the food you’re about to eat. The food serves as a great distraction and can actually relieve tension since you’ll start to care more about the food, than what you’re talking about. As a bonus, it’s good to settle conflicts in a place where there are other people around, so that things don’t get too heated. There’s nothing more embarrassing, than shouting at each other in the middle of a nice restaurant. Even if you’re on an awkward first date with someone and not fighting, food can serve as a great icebreaker. Focusing on that chicken on your plate is way more comfortable, than gazing into a stranger’s eyes all night.
Number 4: get someone to tell you more. They say, that silence is golden, and when it comes to getting someone to spill the beans, it’s a winning ticket. If you’re in a conversation with someone and aren’t getting the deep ‘well thought-out answers’ you were hoping for, try staying silent while they speak. After you ask the person a question, stop talking and let them answer. When there’s silence, the other person is more likely to talk and fill the gap, and will probably say more than they would, if you were to interject.
Number 3: make yourself memorable in job interviews. Do you get stressed out during job interviews? Perhaps, you’re worried you won’t stand out enough to accompany interviewing tons of people. A sure way to stand out from the crowd is to use the serial position effect. This is based on the idea that people tend to remember the first and last parts of things and not much of the middle. Imagine you’re trying to memorize a list of groceries in about ten seconds. You’re likely to remember the first few and the last couple, but not much of what was in the middle. You tend to remember the beginnings and ends of things. So next time you’re on a job interview, be sure to insert your name and talk about yourself at the beginning and end. And if all else fails, you can always wear a weird hat, that can usually jog a memory. Hey, just kidding! Don’t do that.
Number 2: form stronger bonds with people. Do you remember feeling close to your teammates back on the soccer or baseball team in grade school? That’s because being active with someone can help you form stronger bonds more quickly. So, if you’re in a new relationship or starting a friendship with someone, instead of going to the movies or out to eat, try doing an activity together, that can get your blood pumping. Perhaps rock climbing or even an amusement park. When you get your adrenaline going and blood pumping, your body releases endorphins. This then puts you in a better mood and makes you more enthusiastic about whatever you’re doing. In this case – getting to know someone.
Number 1: control people’s assumptions about you. First impressions are a big deal, whether you’re meeting new people at a party or introducing yourself to your future boss. But there’s a way you can actually control a stranger’s first assumptions about you. While you’re talking and getting to know each other, try to point out something you both have in common – maybe you grew up in the same town or you both have the same alma mater. By doing this, the person, you’re speaking to will base their assumptions off this commonality. Since it’s related to them, their assumptions of you will be more positive. This is known as the ‘halo effect’. While this requires a bit of effort in the conversational skills department, it’s a lot better than shouting: “Like me! Like me!” – At someone you just met.